My Top 3 New Year’s Resolutions

My Top 3 New Year’s Resolutions for 2025

Hello, friends, and Happy New Year! Another year has come and gone, and here we are in 2025. I know they say time goes faster as you get older, but seriously… could it slow down a bit?! I feel like I still need time to accomplish everything I planned for last year. Sigh… it’s okay. New year, new plans.

Tomorrow marks another milestone as I turn 46. When I was younger, I don’t think I ever envisioned reaching this age. Maybe it’s because, when we’re young, we live in the moment—something I strive to do more of now. This past year has brought a lot of growth. I could go through all the memories with you, and maybe I will in another post. But today’s post is about the year ahead. I will say, though, that the main areas of growth this past year have been in self-love, spirituality, and setting boundaries. My journey has included lots of patience, acceptance, and healing. I know that sounds a little vague, but I promise these are topics I’ll start writing about and sharing with you soon.

At the start of a new year, I usually come up with a few resolutions and try to follow them. But honestly? I’ve never stuck with a resolution for the entire year. I try for a while and then give up. Maybe it’s because I can’t stay focused on one thing for too long without getting bored (damn ADHD, lol). Or maybe, just maybe, it’s because I set unreasonable and unattainable goals. Either way, I understand the problem and know what I need to do to make it work.

If I’m being real, I can admit that most of my past goals were HUGE. When they took too long to achieve, I usually decided they weren’t worth the effort. I’ve struggled to stick with things that feel difficult. But I also know now that this issue has more to do with self-love (or a lack thereof) than with the tasks themselves being too much or too hard. I’ve spent a lifetime being hard on myself, striving for perfection in areas that were never a good fit for me, and beating myself up for falling short. For years, I hated my inabilities and inadequacies, only to realize that it’s because those abilities weren’t meant for me. Not everyone is capable of the same things, and that’s okay.

This leads me to my first resolution for 2025:

1. Speak Kindly to Myself

This is tough for me. I’ve become aware of just how much I speak down to myself, and I want to change that. I don’t need to be ashamed of my weight. I don’t need to feel shame about my past decisions. There’s no need to hide myself. I am perfectly myself. And that means I don’t need to fit into anyone’s molds. There’s no predetermined set of rules for how I should look or act. I don’t need to apologize for being me.

2. Focus on Balance

I’ve often thought that the only resolution worth taking seriously is one that involves changing myself physically and losing weight. But this year, I’m not focusing on a specific weight. Over the last two years, I’ve slowly gone from 307 lbs to 258 lbs. While this isn’t the weight I think I’ll feel best at, I’m happy to be here. I’m learning to accept myself at this weight and to remind myself that this is an accomplishment all on its own. I don’t need to do more to feel proud of myself. Instead of focusing on weight, I’ll focus on creating a life of balance. I’ll care for my mind as much as my body. I’ll focus on movement, breathing, meditating, connecting with God, trusting myself, honoring myself, and loving myself.

3. Be My Own Best Friend

I’ll be my own cheerleader. I’ll encourage myself to make the best choices and be gentle when I stumble. I’ll fight harder for myself, believe in my abilities, and check in to make sure I’m not overdoing it. I’ll encourage myself to slow down and rest without guilt. I’ll hype myself up, tell myself I look cute, and remind myself that no one’s opinion of me matters except my own and God’s. Most importantly, I’ll hold myself accountable with kindness.

These resolutions feel different to me. They’re not about achieving something external but about transforming how I feel about myself and my life. I’m ready to embrace 2025 with a heart full of self-compassion, balance, and love. If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts or what you’re focusing on this year. Let’s make it a good one, together!

XOXO,

Cheryl